Thursday, September 13, 2007

What to say?

I'm finding that I am mentally filing away things to blog about... but the time to write anything seems to not be there- or, if it is, my mind is not.

Truth be told, I'm really happy but I'm physically exhausted. Early mornings, lots of lifting and carrying my precious 31-pounder, play groups, and, then, after 3 pm, channelling some energy to my elementary-school-aged daughters & their activities (and homework hasn't even really begun yet!)... it all adds up to one tired mom by 9 pm. But tonight as I came in to turn off the computer, I thought I'd try to record a few thoughts.

Hmmm.... I had 2 interesting experiences this week. One was an older lady at the supermarket who unabashedly asked about Daniel and whether he was my son. It turns out that the daughter of her close friend is trying to adopt from China. She was not nosy- very kind and truly interested. When I said "Oh, yes, he was adopted in China", she said "Yes, he's chosen." Then every time she caught a glimpse of us walking through an aisle, she waved like a madwoman! Interesting.

The other experience happened today. We went to Don Cherry's for lunch and the hostess asked if we'd mind telling her where he had his lip surgery done. It turns out that she has a son born with a cleft. So, we had a short but pleasant (and supportive) conversation.

So, up to this point, all our interactions with people who are wondering what a white family is doing with a little Chinese boy have been pretty positive. Early days yet, though, I know. I wonder how I'll feel in 6 months time?


Project Ni Hao said...

Glad to here from you! I'd be tired too - I remember those homework days. Hang in there - have a great weekend.

walternatives said...

I've been wondering about you but imagined that Mommying was keeping you busy. Good to hear you had some positive connections recently. Keep us posted, but don't sacrifice sleep! ;)

Ms. Dragonfly said...

Interesting post.
I'm still pondering the 'chosen' comment.
I'm glad all your interactions have been positive thus far.
Go rest tired Momma.
A job well done.

housemouse said...

Our Chinese daughter has been home for... 18 months, and I can tell you how you'll feel in 6 months time: confident. You will totally forget on a daily basis a) that he's Chinese and b) that he's adopted. When people look at you sideways behind their sunglasses you will look down to be sure you have a bra on, and then think, "oohhhhh. the adoption-china thing. Ok."

We're on our way to meet our little boy in China in 3 weeks. Just found your blog, I'm setting up camp.

Doreen said...

You said exactly what I was going to say Housemouse, well the first part anyway, we aren't leaving for China in 3 weeks. I hope you have a great trip!

new girl said...

Oh, you must be so tired. I am already tired just thinking about what life will be like in a few months, and I don't two additional children to mother!

I bet the positive interactions will outweigh the negative interactions over time. However, it's those pesky negative ones that seem to stick in our head!

wzgirl said...

31 pounds? Whoa. I know that I shouldn't be surprised, but I couldn't help but think about my own weak-ass back.

Chosen? Interesting. You really wonder what goes through people's heads sometimes. Maybe it is better left as a mystery.

redmaryjanes said...

I hope that your positive experiences will continue. Toddlers are exhausting arent' they? Eli keeps me on the run.